I have to tell you something; THIS AIN'T ABOUT YOU!
It's normal to wonder what went wrong, what we did wrong as spouses, what we might have done differently, how we failed, etc. Truth is there is NOTHING that could have stopped this. It's all about them and their issues.
She will probably spew very convincingly that it is your fault (they all do) but don't let yourself be fooled. It's great to go to counseling for yourlself, improve yourself, but do it for you, not her. I fell for that in the beginning and made incredible improvements, all it did was piss her off because I didn't do it sooner.
They're messed up (mine even told me so!) and have to go through this on their own. As much as we wish there is NOTHING WE CAN DO TO STOP IT OR SHORTEN IT. MLC is like a bad stomach virus, its got to run (pardon the pun) its course.
Last edited by sleeper; 01/02/0804:20 PM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
