JMW, I admire your tenacity...I know it is very diffcult to juggle what we are going through and a young child. It helps me to read other people's situations and give my suggestions. It is much more difficult when actually going through our own mess. You are doing great on the darkness issue not as well on the detaching and GALing. I think you are doing great and now need to concentrate on GAL. Good luck in 2008!