How many licks DOES it take?

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I guess another point I would make is that making somebody else responsible for fulfilling a role in your fantasy is much like making somebody else responsible for your orgasm. For instance, it was great that GP actually growled at me but I was free to see him or not see him as "the panther" no matter what he did. OTOH, I would say that given free market sexual economics, a man's willingness to fill an appropriate role in my post-feminist neo-primitive/romantic sexual fantasy realm is exactly equal to the P.O.P. he has to pay. The P.O.P. I have to pay is that I have to fulfill the role I created for myself adequately. In some sense this could be regarded as P.O.C. but sexual economics being what they are the notion of P.O.C. can/should largely be disregarded.

I'll pick on Lou again because I know he can take it. He tries to be protective Uncle Lou with me and caution me that men might "just" be using "lines" on me. What he doesn't understand is that the content of those "lines" is part of my P.O.P. In the article I posted, the columnist talked about the African-American artist who came over and kissed her knees at the bar. For a whole lot of women this gesture would go a long way towards paying P.O.P. because it allows the woman to easily inhabit a sexual fantasy realm in which she is someone who "feels beautiful".