my h has done the same as yours the being sad, being low yet never letting that part follow through the stage or steps or process that they need to accept things and turn them around.
he bounces back to replay...?
I think you are right...bounces back because the reality hurts and he doesn't want hurt...yet he admits that even in WHERE he is and what he is chooing the hole still is there.
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I do believe they have 2 personalities at times one for us and one for OW. For what woman would stay with a depressed man for 2 yrs. I ask myself this often. Remember OW has the MLC man not the real one and he will eventually crash and she will have to deal with this.
My H attempted suicide in late june...who did he call (text) YEP ME.... when I got to the hospital and stayed with him asked him if wanted ow...he said no. he wanted me there. BUT AS SOON as he was "up" again guess who was back.
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well that was over a yr ago and he has still not hit the bottom. I don't believe he ever will his ego is too big and he is a conflict avoider so dealing with this will never happen.
THIS IS MY H!!! conflict avoider!! AND EGO!! OH MY GOSH. He has PRIDE like nonother....he always has..it had been an issue...only GOD could literally break the pride that he holds.
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so keep moving forward not moving on.... but forward take care of you
. MOVIGN FORWARD..and take care of me. That part is kinda hard because in some of the ways i have to take care of me i have to act like my old self- financially-. I have to take charge with some things because HE WILL BLOW THINGS OFF and LET THEM GO UNDER a rug... ie.he has let bills go to collections through this rather than pay.
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They put the feelings that they had for us so deep in a vault that they lock it and lose the key. Their mind keeps running replays of the bad or the made up version of who we are to them.
I feel this is how they stay away. If they continue to dislike who we are they won't have feelings.
Oh yes. stuffed away and snuffed out by a 23 year old
Yes this did help. I am sorry your road has been so long. I am glad we have eachother to fall back on...
ACT AS IF Move FORWARD Love UNCONDITIONALLY BELIEVE AND HOPE but put it on a shelf and WAIT OH yes and the last and greatest...PATIENCE!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
