I'd let W do most of the talking, answer questions as they are asked. If the counselor is worth their salt they will quickly recognize what is going on with your W. The three of us did and we aren't professionals at this. Our C pegged it first session, and when I retained a lawyer 9 mos later I learned they see it often too and the L knew exactly what was happening.
Bad news is this counseling thing in your sitch could be a no win situation. If the C agrees or suggests splitting up it may be what your W is looking for. If the C says your W has a problem, she may do what mine did and say the counselor is "full of s**t" and never go back. Don't get too worked up about the counseling session. Mlcers are going to do what they are going to do no matter what.
Many lawyers give a first consultation for free. To get the biggest bang for no bucks start writing down questions you have and take the entire list to that first consult. Lawyers do cost money but you might want to think about how much it's costing you by not taking legal action if she's spending you into the poor house. A legal seperation agreement which protects you financially is not a divorce and if she does persue a divorce there are things you can do to draw out the process(one of the questions you might want to ask an attorney about).
Good news is that mlcers often do wake up and come home. How patient are you?
Hang tough!
Last edited by sleeper; 01/02/0803:20 PM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
