The book says I don't have to be 100%. I have to act 100%, and I have to stop hurting the H. And so, that's where I'm starting.
I don't know if Mat's reading these posts or not, and it makes me kind of shy to talk about the stuff I'd really like some opinions on. I suppose I could just ask H, eh? (eeeeeek!.... )
Anyway, Sage... I was afraid to buy the book. Afraid to have the title laying on the coffee table... afraid it was going to make me feel horrible about not feeling horrible.. but once I started reading it... I started to see how HARD this could be for the hurt partner. I don't think I ever thought "H MADE me do this", but I certainly did think "I asked, H denied... therefore..."
I am weak and am willing to learn how to be stronger. The problem IS is that I will always be human. My requests to keep boxers off the bathroom floor will always sound shrill even though they're not meant too...
This is scarey stuff, you know? I mean, once you decide you're going to work on it, how do you b%tch about boxers on the bathroom floor?
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