Wife in Major MLC...Looking to Vent

[bombardier50]

Sleeper, Scooter, thanks for the needed advice. Reading some of the other experiences on this board, it seems like MLC is an almost complete death blow to the marriage. Nope, haven't read the success stories.

Right now, my strategy is to buy as much time as possible to build up some savings, plan, prepare myself (although from what I've read, there's just no way to prepare for something this devastating). In other words, if she wants a D, she'll have to make the first step. I really need time. She's done such a good job of getting us in debt that it's going to take some time for me to save up enough to even hire a lawyer.

It's just amazing what she's become. I don't recognize her...my wife of 23 years. It just destroys me.

So...what do I tell the MC? How do I begin, with her there sitting next to me?