I got through the intro last night. Kinda had to bring it up, rather sheepishly, to Mat, with an apology for ever needing it in the first place. ANYWAY ~ for anyone out there whose s'es have OM's or OW's, it would be a really nice gift to them, as it's been to me. It's allowed me, for perhaps the first time in this "thing" to understand (without assigning too much uncomfortability) how infidelity makes a parter FEEL. It's just been a good book for me. I've not spoken with xeom for almost a month. What I miss more than anything was the friend he was before I ruined that, and that's what I'm dealing with now. I never slept with anyone, and that is comforting to me. I told xeom way back, "hey, i'm not getting divorced to be with you...." but... it's incredulous how close I might have come to doing just that.
I do believe I am at long last ready to *work* on OUR marriage. To call it OURS and take my share of responsibility.
what wonderful words to read, Charcoal!!! I am so happy for you and your H.
Now, can you lend that book to MY H?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
