I got through the intro last night. Kinda had to bring it up, rather sheepishly, to Mat, with an apology for ever needing it in the first place. ANYWAY ~ for anyone out there whose s'es have OM's or OW's, it would be a really nice gift to them, as it's been to me. It's allowed me, for perhaps the first time in this "thing" to understand (without assigning too much uncomfortability) how infidelity makes a parter FEEL. It's just been a good book for me. I've not spoken with xeom for almost a month. What I miss more than anything was the friend he was before I ruined that, and that's what I'm dealing with now. I never slept with anyone, and that is comforting to me. I told xeom way back, "hey, i'm not getting divorced to be with you...." but... it's incredulous how close I might have come to doing just that.
I do believe I am at long last ready to *work* on OUR marriage. To call it OURS and take my share of responsibility.
Also, Vista, I've had it in the back of my head to get on here and qualify my H "not doing anything" because that's not really true. I mean, sometimes it is... sometimes it'll go on for a couple of days in a row, and that's when I start getting mad. He does "slave" for "me" sometimes... and I'll have you all remind me of that next time I get on here and start crabbing.
Kim, kim, kim, kim.... I do firmly believe that, pearly gates attained, St. Peter will have trouble finding your name for all the gold stars around it... Hope your weekend is going well. (As for books on forgiveness, any suggestions?)
