In my long rambling posting (perhaps I was suffering from writers' block and my decision to detach opened the floodgates) I forgot to ask a key question:
WHEN WE DETACH WITH A PMA, AND ACT "AS IF", DO WE CONDONE OUR WAS'S BEHAVIOUR AND ADD FUEL TO THEIR TRIP TO LA LA LAND?
Perhaps my own circumstances are complicated by the fact that we are still living together. My W has stayed at home, dropped her bomb, had an affair (with a miscarried pregnancy), and still remains disconnected. Isn't she looking for me to detach, so she can have the space & time to really build her independent life?
These questions really haunted me previously, but thankfully I've taken a more relaxed attitude in 2008. I don't know, and I can't influence her in anyway. However the thoughts of others on these point would be welcome.
