I just want to wish everyone on the board a happy 2008 and say it will get better. This has been a year of many changes for me. Not all of it has been fun, but I will say that it has all been for the better. I made it through another year of nursing school and I will be done in May. Thank GOD (if all goes well). I did not think I could do it and I did. I found the strength to ask H to leave because he was not going to commit to our marriage. I made it through a tough semester of school while going through a seperation. I made it through my first Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years without H. I can't tell you the last time we have been apart on the holidays. I made it without falling apart, without breaking down, without loosing my mind. I know GOD has played a part in all of this, but damn it I made it and so did all of you. Let's not give our spouses the power over us. This is our journey. They play a part, but our situations are meant for us to discover our inner strengths. Our situations are meant fou us to discover things about ourselves and maybe change the things we don't lkke. Let's face it, we all had a part in our situations. Some of us were not right people and did stuff we should not have done and some of us were too right and we let others treat us like doormats. I say let's take 2008 and finally learn the lessons that we are meant to learn. 2008 is our year to become better people. Ladies if you were like me then you did all the work. I now for the first time in 6 years don't have to cook a hot meal every day. My son and I can eat cereal if we want without having to deal with my h's dissaproving attitude. I can watch what I want on TV and I get to control the remote. I have 3 whole days to myself to do with what I want. I can nap, I can workout, I can talk on the phone. I never got that before. Of course I want my H back more than anything, but I am enjoying the solitude I have and building up my strengh for the long journey ahead. I am becoming a better person and a stronger person so that if we do make it back to eachother I am a better person for him and that way I can demand better from him. And you know what if all else fails, this is a board full of people who have the same values and beliefs regarding marriage. Maybe some of us should start hooking up. At least we know where we all stand on the subject of marriage. Anyway, that is my rant for 2008, but I know like I know my name this WILL be a better year for us all. I promise.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
