wants to "talk" tomorrow

[forward]

Well, it is cold and of course everything is closed, so I am relaxing in the house.

I am gradually learning to fix meals. I always wanted to experiment with more meals but H complained I messed up the kitchen and complained about everything I tried (practice makes perfect??) so here I am not really knowing how to cook! I've just been experimenting, even if it is frozen foods sometimes.

I'm finding myself increasingly detached from H. I suspect that it shows as he suddenly seems to be more concerned about who I am with.

For New Years, I don't really make resolutions but I am looking around and thinking that even if I get divorced, I don't think that anything can be as bad as being left by a raging alien with a 14-month-old. I feel better and far more optimistic. I do know that I will be OK.

[hopefloats7]

breton,

Hugs. I hope you DO continue to play around with cooking! It made me sad to read that your H didn't want you to mess up the kitchen. WTH? That's what happens when you cook.
I have been watching the Food Network a lot lately. Give it a try; you might be inspired!
You're going to be ok. You're doing really well. Your H's ow is very young and the chances are it won't work out. Doesn't guarantee he will come back home but I think in time he will know what a fool he's being.

[forward]

Thanks, HF. I do think his days with her are numbered. If not, well, whatever.

As far as the cooking--yeah, well, H has been a control freak. I am giving that a lot of thought as I do not want to live with a control freak again.

I continue to DB but am not sure that I want him back.

My H has much more growing up to do than most. We never had a traditional marriage in that I worked the entire time, and D2 was born late in our lives. I make more money than H and helped him too much with various aspects of his work. So he really is clueless basic facts of life around certain things, because Mama Breton did a lot of things for him. In return he took me for granted.

I am sorry that I over-babied him--I have thought about that quite a bit. He also allowed it, though.

H has few if any friends now, is also my guess (most of our friends were people that I'd met). I've read that a conflict in relationships w/big age differences is how to have friends as a couple. Do you hang out with people who are 22 or 44?

So likely he deals almost exclusively w/girl child.

Also, I've read the "infatuation" phase of relationships tends to last no more than 18 months, and starts fading at 6. I noticed a change in my H towards me at 7 months--seemed more respectful.

The blush is coming off the rose....

But this old gray mare is NOT what she used to be. Kickin'.....

[forward]

I made a nice dinner. He was hungry and ate w/us.

D2 cries when he wants to go. So he is beginning to linger.

I think he is missing home, missing D2, missing having a nice place to live, but he doesn't seem to be missing me.

I've taken to going upstairs and working out when he is here.

[Grace_O]

I find it interesting what I see now when I reflect back on my M. Like you I see things that cannot continue if we have any chance of any type of R.

I spend alot more time doing things solo or with girls when H is home too. Not b/c of him as much as me. I have things I want to get done and I'm much more comfortable
going off to do them.

I had to laugh at the old gray mare comment. Hmm, reminds me I need to color my hair....

[Truelove]

Thanks for posting on my thread and your advice. - I have actually forgiven H a long time ago, but I still don't like him having contact with OW. I read so many books on MLC etc. during the last two and a half years that at the moment I need to read other things.

Need to go - Happy New Year.