Many, many people in your life who love you and whom you trust will tell you all kinds of discouraging stuff. Just don't listen. I have heard all kinds of crazy crap from my family and my best friends. I think they just want us to be happy asap and they think the best route to that is for us to give up. Just remember that this is your decision, not their decision. They do not know what is best. Listen to your heart.
It is really tricky because the first month after the bomb dropped, when I was totally unstable, panicking, and crazy, and couldn't really sleep or eat anything (seriously, like I was just drinking juice b/c chewing seemed to much effort), sometimes talking to people made me feel better, and sometimes talking to people made me feel worse.
I don't know if this would help, but if you are in the middle of a conversation with someone that is freakin' you out, even if they are your mom or your BFF, it's ok to say, "GOTTA GO" and end it.
One thing I didn't learn until after many weeks is that no matter how much people love us (friends & family), sometimes they are just not up for helping us out with our R crisis, frequently for reasons that have nothing to do with us. Sometimes they say stuff out of frustration with us that has nothing to do with our R situation. I am the kind of person who needs to talk everything out and process externally and I have SERIOUSLY learned, very slowly, without even trying, to become more self-reliant.
I didn't find this board until a month after the bomb dropped, and it took me another month to work up the guts to post. you are really gutsy to post right away. I can tell you no matter what, you are going to feel better. You will process, you will think things through, and you will find your steady ground underneath you.
DA, *did you get Divorce Remedy yet*? Seriously it was the best $14 I ever spent. Let me know when you get it!! Do it tomorrow!
Take a deep, deep breath.
Also, can you pick one thing to do just for yourself, to help your positive mental attitude? What is one simple thing you can do tomorrow to lift your spirits and maybe even clear your mind, just a little bit?
