He knows on an intellectual level that it wouldn't be a good idea to encourage it, but he's unbelievably turned on at the thought of it. He didn't react as angrily at your past indiscretions as you thought he should. And he *&$#ed you silly after you told him you wanted to jump the fence again.
CE, You definitely might be right that Mr LFL is somewhat turned on by the idea of LFL with someone else.
However I wonder if it is just as likely that the thought of LFL being with someone else triggers more of a feeling of "I will be the man my wife needs and wants. I'll show her how I really feel about her."
There is something about the way LFL writes about her H which makes him seem more Alpha and stronger to me than she seems to see him.
I wonder if LFL has taken the time to sidle up to him today and let him know exactly how great yesterday was for her. As in whispering in his ear "I couldn't stop thinking about x, y and z all day today." or whatever...
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
Mojo Why don't you add "Scream, baby, scream." while you're at it? You never know...
Well, once I said come on baby, F me harder, really ride me baby! I was delivering the typical girl lines to see if she would react in a good way. BB looked at me like I was nutz
She was on top but I was providing the action. She doesn't like the bottom unless I barely touch her. I haven't mastered levitation bit and when I am top-side she starts to feel closed in.
So, it is top side for her, bottom side for me for the ride to last more than a couple of minuets. Of course I like the skin time and a couple of minuets top side won't do it for me.
"Scream, baby, scream." Well, I don’t say that myself, but I am not quiet. I wished some of my vocalizations caught on, made her respond. Maybe if I didn't do them, she would feel inferior or disappointed. I don’t know .
All I know is, that is me. I like doing them and I am going to keep doing them till I hear otherwise.
I think Corri was talking about telling stories, fantasy type stories, during sex, rather than the more direct talking given as examples. For instance, if Mr.LFL truly gets turned on by thinking about LFL being with another man sexually, he might really get into it if, during sex, LFL erotically and breathily described a fantasy sexual encounter between herself and some safely unavailable man. Brad Pitt, or whomever.
It might work better for somebody else if the story was about Angelina Jolie, or being on a deserted tropical island...the list is endless.
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It may just be that he thinks they're on the same footing now. He screwed up by leaving, now she screwed up, with regards to their marriage. Kind of like a two fallible humans together thing. Much more f*ckable than a Madonna on a pedestal who was magnanimous enough to forgive his sins.
Burgbud For instance, if Mr.LFL truly gets turned on by thinking about LFL being with another man sexually, I hear there are a few guys that think like that but also think they are few and far between.
~~~~some safely unavailable man/woman. Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie~~~~ Call me strange, but I don't think it is something one should do when M.
Maybe I am square, as they used to say in the 60's, but I rather think it would be more productive to think about the hot times both LFL's had with each other, than to be thinking about a third party.
I can certainly remember some hot times BB and I had.
I still say Mr. LFL wants to do what is attractive to LFL but he has hang ups. He appears stuck until she is ready to bail, then he put in a don't leave moves. Sort of like paying the back taxes to the ranch when the foreclosure notice was posted, circa 1885.
I also like SG's thoughts.
Yes Burgbud, the possibility list is endless.
I think Corri was talking about telling stories, fantasy type stories, during sex, rather than the more direct talking… Ok, :thinking: :thinking: hummmmmmm, fantasy, “Cat in the Hat” naw, too childish,-not original enough. Geees, I always have trouble with fantasy. Name, rank, serial number, what I did today, what I want to do tomorrow, no problem.
Second problem is if I say I want to verb your noun and the OP thinks, he is thinking with his little head again (stupid men thing) does it do much good? Or is this a case where one should go with what is in your gut and see what happens.
Maybe the advice, “know your audience,” doesn’t apply.
Had sex again last night. Think that makes it four times in 2 days. I'm living in Bizzaro World. (Seinfeld)
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He knows on an intellectual level that it wouldn't be a good idea to encourage it, but he's unbelievably turned on at the thought of it. He didn't react as angrily at your past indiscretions as you thought he should. And he *&$#ed you silly after you told him you wanted to jump the fence again.
Right. And he didn't respond this way in the past, even though I've had brutally honest conversations with him before about me wanting to just end this all. Why now? The only thing really different is the fact that I was prepared to f@ck some other guy. And looking back, he was pretty horny when we just got back together after I was dating this guy while separated. There has to be some connection here.
CE, You definitely might be right that Mr LFL is somewhat turned on by the idea of LFL with someone else.
However I wonder if it is just as likely that the thought of LFL being with someone else triggers more of a feeling of "I will be the man my wife needs and wants. I'll show her how I really feel about her."
There is something about the way LFL writes about her H which makes him seem more Alpha and stronger to me than she seems to see him.
I wonder if LFL has taken the time to sidle up to him today and let him know exactly how great yesterday was for her. As in whispering in his ear "I couldn't stop thinking about x, y and z all day today." or whatever...
I think he does want to show me he wants to be my man. When we were having sex last time, he did more talking again. Sort of angrily whispered "you're mine" (but in a hot way) and then kept going "say it...say it...say it..." until I said it back to him. It was so not like him. He's never possessive like that. So yep, he definitely has alpha traits in him that I have just been overlooking.
