25 y/o MLC?? HELP- I want to save my marriage!!

[darkestangel]

THANK YOU!! Your words have been the comfort my heart needed. I felt like I was going crazy, up and down, every day.
I have not given up hope. No matter how much the people in my life tell me to "accept it", or that "he's made up his mind"; when I married H, I made the decision that for better or for worse, I would be his wife. I am willing to tough it out. It is easy to slip into the state of mind of self pity. It is easy but it accomplishes nothing.
When i see H, I reminbd myself of all the lessons learned here. i remind myself that OW means nothing. She is his bandaid.
It is not easy. I am human and I hurt. It's hard to think that he's taking her to "our" theatre, to "our" restaurant. But I've learned that i cannot control his actions, only my own. And to be the bigger person will always benefit me in the end.
Keep helping me. Now, I need it more than ever.