Being Me, you ask whether my W was ever able to read my mind? Of course not, but that's just another reason we shouldn't be together! Ha Ha Ha!!!! Last night I went to my friends house until about 10:00 pm and then went over to W's to bring in the New year with her and the kids. It was a nice evening. Today I chose not to go to her/our friends place for the day, it just felt like too much together time as we usually spend the whole day and evening there. I went to visit my parents for a couple of hours instead. W needs to know that everything is NOT as it was before, despite whatever little fantasy she has cooked up in her head. I will do what I am comfortable doing, I will not cater to her every whim about "family". If family meant so much to her than she should have made better choices before we separated, she didn't so now she can live with building a new family that will have to take into account what I am able and willing to do. She may be very good at shutting out her feelings and carrying on but that's her trip. I have feelings and am proud to say I let them show once in a while! Our family is a work in the making, the old family is dead, what is is and what will be will be!