if you'd eat mac and cheese and get on with the day then why not eat mac and cheese and get on with the day...
I always cooked meals that were for h... when he left over the summer I didn't bother...one cuz I just wasn't eating much and how much to two little ones eat??? I was tired of the left overs in the fridge...and second..cuz I didn't have to anymore..but what I failed to realize is that h never expected me to cook like that for him...he's fine with pb&j or pizza or mac and cheese himself...sure he likes the extra good stuff...but I didn't have to do it...
so I guess what I'm saying is...do you really have to cook a bird for h?? are you doing it just for h??? pick one or two nights a week that you will cook that way for the "family" and the rest of the week make easy meals...meat loaf, frozen veggies, mac & cheese, frozen mixes that you just add meat too...it's good stuff and doesn't take as much effort therefore no resentment at having put forth the effort.
Quote: H asked if I wanted to do *anything*. I said, no, not really, I just wanted to hang out.
do anything?? you do want to do something..you want to spend the time with him... hope it goes well.
Quote: I'm afraid that asking for help will put H on the defensive.
all depends on your approach...timing, wording, mood etc...
why not next time say...matt...would you mind holding little tike while I get the bird out of the oven...
thank you.
don't expect him to know you need help...for some reason men seem to think we like to do it all instead of realizing that sometimes we just do what we have to do...
Quote: I gave H a big, warm hug this morning with head-pets and everything. First in months. When I pulled away, I could tell that H was really frustrated, physically... I know I have to *take care* of that and soon.
