How many licks DOES it take?

[Burgbud]

I agree that it's important to try to see others as who they are, rather than who we'd like them to be or expect them to be. However...

Do you really know your spouse? As they really are?

It's just as important to realize that we never know others as they really are. Even knowing ourselves is a constant process of discovery.

On a different but related note, I asked what's the alternative to differentiation and perspective control and your responded with "reality." How are differentiation and perspective control different from reality?