Good for you! I think you're doing everything right and I know that your husband appreciates it. As for variety, I agree that it can wait until the frequency issue is resolved and you're both comfortable with each other again. Keeping a hand on him while you're out in public is great - you wouldn't believe what that does to make us guys feel desirable. And I wouldn't completely stop initiating if I were you. I hope that someday I'll be comfortable initiating sex with my wife again. But even if she were to always accept my advances, I still like it when she initiates. Her doing so helps me to feel that she really wants me rather than just to fulfill an "obligation". Also, I think that some of the greatest sex happens when you're really not expecting it. After the good time that you and your husband had last night (seeing the band), he probably felt like there was a good chance that you'd want to have sex and therefore he wasn't afraid to give it a try. Tonight he may want you just as badly, but he could be afraid to initiate thinking that you probably don't want to have sex again so soon. Acting like you can't wait to do it again may do a lot for his confidence. Bear in mind however that I'm not him - just use your own judgement.
