I do believe that all the points you made apply to us. And your right, it's not revenge. H is too sweet for that. I do think he is just not sure what to do after sooo long...And since he knows I read the book maybe he thinks I'm just trying to do what the book says and its not because I am hot for him.
Variety?...yes we need to work on this...I was just trying to get frequecy down first.
Maybe he feels like it's "sex on demand". First, i don't want it, now i do want it, and he just supposed to go along. I think I just need to let him come to me when he wants, let it be his idea and try my best not to reject him ever again.
We went out last night with friends. Listened to a band. I rubbed his shoulders a lot and complemented him infront of everyone on how great he looks, no matter who I was talking to I kept one hand on him, thigh, back ect. It was kind of a birthday thing for me. (it's actually today). but I acted as if it was his.
So we got home, got to bed, H initiated, and we had a rock'in night! We literally fell off the bed!
The funny thing was that it was late and I was tired. He initiated and my first thought was to roll over and just snuggle off into sleep. It took a lot for me to shift gears. But I did. And it was worth it. Because we both had a great time.
As I think about it. This was probably the first time in years that he initiated and I was willing. After that much rejection for H it really is no wonder that he's not comfortable with this new change of my behavior.
So things may be slow going. But at least there going. I guess I just need to settle back a little and let H come around his own way, at the same time keeping myself in the right frame of mind, sexy thoughts...
