Casey,

I needed to set boundaries with my ex-wife. She was making plans, and not telling me about them at all, to do things on weekends with one or two, but never all three kids at once. More than once she showed up to take one of the kids somewhere as I was putting dinner on the table. It kept my plans in limbo.

I told her that on one particular weekend none of the kids would be available to go anywhere or do anything with her. The following weekend all three would be available, but a week after that, none of them would be available. Then I made sure we weren't around.

I had to change the locks after I started that, too. But the alternative was to keep living around her schedule. That wasn't going to work for us. It probably doesn't work well for you and your kids to work around your husband's changing schedules, either.

Do you know what you'll be doing for your son's birthday?

Thanks,

Joe

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