I do wish you luck. Retrouvaille can work miracles. But even they don't recommend trying to rebuild the marriage until OM is out of the picture. I hope that the computer stuff you are seeing indicates a cessation of communication there. That would be a good thing for you. But if the affair is still active, she is not likely to make an effort even if she goes to Retrouvaille. I am surprised that they only offer it twice a year where you are.
