Jen, I just read your thead here and have seen some of your posts and can tell that we are very much alike. My advice to you ---listen to MPT! I could have written every one of her posts. Do what she says, I am living proof that it works. I too have felt like you did for the past 10 or so years. I finally realized that I missed the closness we used to have and was sick and tired of living this way. I put to use a 180 and boy did it work. I invited my h away for the weekend. I brought along some pretty lingerie, candles, etc. and litterly forced myself to have sex with my h as soon as we checked in (tip, K-Y really helps when you are not really in the mood). All of this was so unlike me that he was very surprised and delighted. I continued to force myself to do it and pretty soon I did not have to force myself anymore-I really wanted to and tell him so. He loves to feel desirable again and his attitude reflects that. This has helped our r so much. It makes us both happier and he is extra nice and loving to me.
