Nikki....I totally agree with Elusive Butterfly. You say you have a good therapist so I'll hope and pray that he/she will help you both. My H said that if a man falls in love with the OW he will go be with her. By his giving her up and staying with you is a sign he loves you and wants to save your marriage. Those of us whose H's give up the OW and work hard to save their marriage are fortunate. There are a lot of women out there whos H's leave and go to the OW. An A is a horrible thing to accept,deal with and live with and both parties have to be willing to work hard to make things work. So Nikki,you hang in there and remember that there a lot of people out here who care and are good listeners and offer some great advice. This is a great place to come when you need a friend to talk to or even to scream and yell and rant and rave [Smile] !!