Yes! that is the cycle I am talking about! It is the worst!But the SSM book gives us hope. Michele says that the cycle also works the other way. One person gives a gesture of love and the other can't help but respond the same. I am starting to see glimmers of it.
I think the key is what you said about hard work. I used to think that if we were in love then everything should just work itself out. Now I am really understanding that this stuff takes constant attention and constanat hard work. Work means doing things you don't always feel like doing. But the payoffs will be worth it because if nothing else at least we can know we've giving all we got.
My H told me this morning that he read my email last night. We were on our way to the gym. He was very nice to me this AM. He didn't say anything about the email, just that he got it and he wrote back and then lost it all because our computer froze up. But I think he may have "got it" somewhat based on his kindness.
You sound very determined to work on your R. And you sound like you have very high hope for great results. That is wonderful! Stay determined and try not be a jerk. I'll try not to be a *itch. Ha Ha
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