Have you got a sponsor yet? If not, the next time you do get to a meeting, say out loud during the business time that you are looking for one. Odds are, someone will approach you by the end of the night.
Is your DD in counseling or AlAteen? They may be able to see her a few times, then ask H to come in for a family counseling session about how he parents her. There might be a substance abuse counselor available at her school or school system, or through a local women's center or shelter. I don't think an intervention will come of that, though...
Your child needs your care, protection and clear-headed judgement if your H can't provide that. She is a child, a dependent. But you have to realize that your H is an adult, and as such is free to make his own life choices (why SO many of us are here!!)--if you do decide to try for an intervention, please read about it first and see if you can find an experienced counselor to lead it. Have you seen the program called Intervention on cable (I can't recall the channel...) Essentially, it is all about letting go after you tell the addicted person what your concerns are for them, point them in the direction of resources, and then say goodbye until they make some serious changes...
Please remember to take care of YOU first, then your DD. Unfortunately, although we care very deeply for our WAS/alcoholics/addicts, we can't make the changes for them or force them to want to change--the motivation has to be from within them if it is to work.
Know that I am thinking about you and praying for you and your family,
