I agree with everything you said Peaceful. I think that this type of conflict is pretty common in marriages...and I'm working through it.
Sorry for my abrupt ending last night. Don't know where I lost my train of thought. I finally decided around 10 pm to go make sure H was where I thought he was. When I got there, I walked into the shop and said something like, "I'm looking for my New Year's date--have you seen him?" and he looked at the clock and said, "Is it really 10:30?"
I think that I got myself pretty worked up yesterday and blew some things out of proportion. He wasn't holding a grudge...just trying to have a "productive" day. We had a pretty good talk when he came home and I told him how the events of Sunday and Monday made me feel and he apologized.
And then we got into it again this morning...miscommunication. I can see that we both need to be more forthcoming with information for each other, and maybe discuss our plans more in advance so neither of us has unrealized expectations that cause us to get upset.
I think this is going to take some practice, but some dialogue has been opened up now, and I'm more aware of the fact that I need to stand up and speak up when something really bothers me rather than just letting it build steam by staying quiet.
and he looked at the clock and said, "Is it really 10:30?"