Maybe make it clear to her that right now he is not coming back. And maybe one of your goals should be that you have to work out the stuff between them before he does come back. Let her know that this is not going to happen over night. Time is one your side. You do need to know where you are at with H before she really needs to worry about all of this anyways. And keep doing stuff with her. The more she sees you happy the sooner her guard will come down. I know that my S14 wil take on my pain. And I am discovering that our S8 is taking on a whole lot of hurt too. I spent an hour the other night trying to get him to stop crying. He said he should have asked Santa for his family to be back together instaed of toys. It broke my heart.
Anyways, what I'm trying to say is that all kids react different to our hurt. So I think that if you show her happiness she will start to feel that too.
That's just my opinion. Take Care!!
Me:32 H: 34 T: 12 YEARS M: ALMOST 5 S: 8 D: 4 S: 14 (OTHER R) SEPERATED: 03/09/07 (but wanted to work on it) NEW SEPERATION: 27/11/07 (doesn't know what he wants) MOVED HOME 12/01/08 I'm acting as if this blue sky is never going to rain down on me....Sara Evans
