lwb, I think db is also about doing 180s. if something isn't working, try something new. and honestly, maybe he NEEDS to hear it.
maybe all pursuing isn't evil. I think people get stuck on that. yes, I can see how it can be annoying, and can be wrong in many cases. but I also think it the was doesn't know the lbs even wants them, or has convinced themself the lbs doesn't care, maybe its not a bad idea for the lbs to shake that up a bit.
do you get what I am trying to say? I'm not saying you have to humiliate or degrade yourself. I don't think letting your H know that sex between you would mean something to you, is in any way losing your own self respect. I think, far from it, in fact, its keeping it...its acknowledging your feelings and laying them out there. the scary thing is it makes you vulnerable, which is tough to do.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
