In The Passion Trap, what you are experiencing is called the 'short honeymoon phase,' aka - 'holy smokes, she's actually going to dump my azz.' It comes on the tail end of a One Down reclaiming part of their power, and the One Up feels it.
Power, as I have said before, is an incredible aphrodisiac (combined with the last ditch 'honesty' talk). Fran is experiencing the exact same thing with her H right now, if you read how he's been acting toward her on her thread.
LFL, I really suggest you read that book, to make sure you KEEP the power you have so recently reclaimed, or it's going to sputter and go right back to what it was.
Well, the "honeymoon" phase is what I fear so I think I'll look into that book. I need to keep that power struggle going it seems, in some way. Dont slip back into our old patterns. Thanks Corri.
He's been pretty closed-mouthed about his fantasies, right? I think you just found one.
(Or maybe I'm talking about myself again...)
I just don't know. Could it really be? I don't think he'd EVER want that to be reality but it's fantasy we are talking about here. I think when anyone thinks of their spouse being with someone else, it does make you feel possessive and gets those juices flowing. I'm fascinated this is actually working for him though. He was more horny yesterday than I've ever seen him.
Well I didn't (I was quite drunk by midnight, lol) but H did! That was three times in less than 12 hours. He only had one or two drinks. Buzzed enough to perform quite well and actually step even further out of his comfort zone. Corri mentioned talking during sex. Boy did he. And that's not usually like him. "you are so f-ing wet......wrap your legs around my back and don't let go.....do you like how my c@ck feels when I f@ck you...." so not like him...but boy did that get me hot. Can't believe I was even able to cum again after so many drinks.
Cripes all mighty!!! Setting the bar a little high for the rest of us dontcha think Lets see....yup, you're on pace for 1095 f*cks for 2008...oh wait a minute, this is a leap year...make that 1098, or are you two gonna take that extra day off and rest?
And here I thought you said he didn't have it in him
LFL, I hope you didn't take anything I said too personal. I just really didn't want to see you possibly throw things away in chase of a fantasy..kwim? No hard feelings? Unless of course your husbands around...sheesh!!
And here I thought you said he didn't have it in him
I know! Where the heck has all that passion been hiding? Kind of makes me sad to think about. We've been so miserable for so long regarding the sex and within one day he acts like a total sex maniac, my favorite type of guy. Lol
He's been pretty closed-mouthed about his fantasies, right? I think you just found one.
(Or maybe I'm talking about myself again...)
I just don't know. Could it really be? I don't think he'd EVER want that to be reality but it's fantasy we are talking about here. I think when anyone thinks of their spouse being with someone else, it does make you feel possessive and gets those juices flowing. I'm fascinated this is actually working for him though. He was more horny yesterday than I've ever seen him.
LFL
He knows on an intellectual level that it wouldn't be a good idea to encourage it, but he's unbelievably turned on at the thought of it. He didn't react as angrily at your past indiscretions as you thought he should. And he *&$#ed you silly after you told him you wanted to jump the fence again.
Yep, I'd say you found one of his buttons. I'm not sure how much you could or would push that particular one, even through fantasy, but it might be a good opening to try the "radical honesty" route and tell him what you've noticed and see what he says. Especially now that you're still enjoying the glow from your New Year's fireworks and have a better mindset to have conversations like that with him.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
Lets see....yup, you're on pace for 1095 f*cks for 2008...oh wait a minute, this is a leap year...make that 1098, or are you two gonna take that extra day off and rest? 
