Time to unhook my water heater, and start taking cold showers again after reading your suggestions on this thread!!!
My W accomodated me in our M every way a man would want including sexually for 30 years to keep me happy, so I wouldn't D her because she knew how important it was to me! Even though she had a low sex drive. It was always "just hurry up and get it over with" when I wanted to lie next to her after, just holding her and talking to her, but she would rush and douche, and take a shower, like it was dirty!
If I didn't initiate, it could be weeks before we would have sex, then she would ask "you never touch me any more, whats wrong, do you have someone else?". Did I ever give up on her? NO! Did I love her? YES Did I cherish her? Yes Did I do other things a good husband should do? YES Did I cheat on her? NO!
W finially decided it was time for her to fix her problem! She met some one that isn't interested in sex, and filed for D!
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