Fred - great job summing up my feelings! It's been so long that I had felt this way and never really knew why...until this whole SSM thing came along. And now that I'm slowly getting my W onboard, it's amazing how everything has changed so much for the better.
This thing about "we just did it last week" reminds me of that scene from Annie Hall where Annie complains to her therapist that their sex life is fine they make love "two or three times a week". Meanwhile, Alvy is telling his therapist that they never make love "only like two or three times a week." That sounds so familiar.
My W didn't like chapter 1 of SSM, thought it was blameful and hurtful. I don't think it was until I put it into my own words, something along the lines of "I love you so much...I'd make love with you every day if I could" (which is true) that we started to make progress.
