Lou, I doubt anyone can get through to him, but I sure like you! (lol) It is the 2006 year that he is filing. He probably didn't even know when the extention date is due. He thought it was the last day of the year. That is what he has done the past few years.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi2 - have you tried Effexor? because one of the side effects is a loss of appetite/weight
I think that this is backwards. Effexor makes most people gain a lot of weight. I also think it is one of the nastiest AD's for side effects. Google effexor side effects and read up on it. Many people have issues with it.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
I don't know what the official policy is of the IRS or state tax depts., but if you have a refund due and pay the penalties for filing late, the longer you don't file with in reason, the more money the IRS and state get to play with your money.
If you owe money, pay what you owe, pay the penalty, and interest, that too is more money for the IRS and state.
That is just my way of thinking so don't quote me or think I know what the IRS, state, local tax people think or do.
A customer of mine is a CPA. He said congress hasn't authorized refund money for the 2007 tax year. The way he said it is the IRS has the authority to collect money but not the authority to pay back over payments for the 2007 tax year.
I thought collections and refunds were part of the same process.
Then there is the Alternative Minimum Tax thing that has to be worked out in congress/IRS and/or? the software people.
I only hear bits and pieces about tax matters because of my brief contacts with accountants that are my printer supply customers and through the church’s “volunteer tax preparers, community service program
We are a bunch of very amateurish but good intentioned people. There is a training program on the internet and our group has some of the training books and meets for 2 hours a week Dec, to April.
imLin, thanks for your incouragement! My Dad always believed a person could change, so let's pray my H and I both will change for the better this next year.
Hi Sandi, and merry Christmas!
I also believe that a person can change... IF and only if, they have sufficient motivation to do so.
One thing we know for sure, is that, left to himself, your husband will not change. Sometimes, external motivations, for specific things come up. Such as the city providing "motivation" for him to clean up your yard.As far as your relationship with him goes, though.. seems pretty clear that if you wish him to change, you'll need to provide some kind of motivation yourself, directly.
Whether you provide positive, or negative, or both kinds of motivation, is up to you. I previously suggested a heavy dose of positive motivation.
I hope you'll find the courage to confront him about it one way or another, for your own sake and happiness.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
My H didn't do well with the regular Welbutrin but he did with the timed release version...so maybe you need to try a different type of Welbutrin...but I know it is hard doing the whole guinea pig treatment too...
I was watching the news this morning and a piece came on about transcranial magnetic stimulation as a treatment for depression. It's still awaiting FDA approval, but the report was saying they should have it by early summer.
Anyways, they were interviewing some of the human lab rats that were receiving the treatments as clinical trials and they said the results were amazing. A number of individuals were saying that their depression was linked to other physical ailments...the pain was causing them to be depressed and the treatments were not only helping the depression, but the pain as well.
I thought of you and was getting ready to write the web-info down when Murphy's law struck....we had a flicker in our power from this snow storm we got overnight and I missed it
The news piece was from a research team out of South Carolina, so I started going through your post to see where abouts you live...couldn't find it and started to get a little cross eyed so I stopped looking. Hey! BTW....um...I saw a little tidbit about where you used to hang the Christmas Tinsle
Anyways, I did a quick search and found a bunch of links of similar trials across the country. Here's just a couple...
Dear IC........OMG, I can't tell you what this means to me that you were concerned for me even though your life has been turned upside down. I don't know what to say! You really are a sweetie-heart and so is your wife. She sent me a post showing her concern also. I was very touched by that. I pray with all my heart that your MR will be blessed this new year.
So, you read about my special gift wrapping for my H that Christmas, huh? Yes, well, I have been told that I'm creative......lol. He rather enjoyed unwrapping his gift that night.
I will check out the sites you gave me. Again, I just am blown away that you took the time and cared enough about my stitch to do this for me.
Best wishes to you and yours.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
What year's taxes are you talking about? The 2006 extension was due Oct 15 2007
Dear Lou,
You were right about that date. We just found out yesterday, so my DIL said there was no point in trying to get it in the mail by midnight. So, do you know if the IRS penalties are so much per day or how that works? I'm afraid to ask anyone.
As far as the back yard is concerned, he got a 7 day extension, which gave us this week. Not one thing has been done as of today!
I didn't get much sleep last night. Woke up before 3:00 a.m. and finished one of the books I've been inching through. I had made up my mind that when he got up that I was going to walk up to him and tell him for us to start the New Year out with a great big kiss. But, I finally went back to bed, probably right before he woke up and by the time I got up, he had left to go out of town. I feel so down today and have no energy. I don't know if the Zoloft is going to do anything for me except put weight on me. Anyway, I hope and pray that we all have a better year. It is really hard for me to have a PMA right now b/c I know that what Lilliperl said is true.....this man is not going to change and I can either accept it or let it drive me crazy. But, this "crap" around here is what I can't accept and is very difficult to put forth much effort toward the R when I feel angry and humiliated.
I don't think the GS is going to be willing to give the dog away and we had found a good home out in the country where he could run free and be so much more happier than in that small cage. He is growing so fast and is not getting exercise like he needs. I have to watch this every day and it breaks my heart. He is so bored in that cage and so lonely. I guess I sound silly, but I just can't stand to see dogs in a cage or tied up. The GS doesn't take up any time with him b/c he is rarely here,nor does he take care of the dog......so that doesn't set well with me, either. We don't have the money to fence in the back yard, or I guess we would probably do it. My H has gotten so attached to the dog (of course I haven't...lol).
Sorry that I keep harping on the same tune, it's just what it is right now. That's one reason I haven't added anything to my thread in the last few days b/c nothing has changed and I just don't want any advice on what action I need to be doing at this moment to meet my H's needs, etc. I can't handle it right now. I don't know what to expect from the IRS and I don't know what to expect from the city. I don't know how many $$$$ this is going to put us into debt, so I am just trying to get through this particular stress with my sanity in tact. Then, maybe I can muster up the energy to tackle the MR.
Anyway, I always appreciate your help, Lou, and everyone that has shown concern. I really want to feel positive about a new year. I always like to start out like a fresh new slate, but it is feeling very hard to do today.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
IRS penalties are so much per day or how that works? A small percentage based on the amount and time the money isn't paid. If you have a refund then just the late fees from what I understand. I am not a real tax person. I just dabble.
SG's dog He is so bored in that cage and so lonely. I don't think dogs belong in cages. dogs are social creatures and need companionship and a place to run.
Who is the leader in your house, you or the GS? Who pays the bills? What is the right thing to with the dog, penned up or something else?
Tell GS the dog's needs come first. A fenced yard, lots of time spent with the dog. plenty of activities done with the dog. If he can't do all of them, he shouldn't have a dog.
Dogs are legally considered property in some states but don't they deserve more than someone saying they OWN a dog. What does the dog or any pet deserve? No million dollar pet motel, but surely more than a cage.
Yes it is hard on people giving up a pet but how much nicer will the dog's life be in a proper home.
The IRS isn't out to ruin you Sandi, just to collect what is due and to try to get people to file on time and correctly.
Local tax preparers file for late people all of the time. Call a tax person and ask questions. Maybe you will feel better or somewhat relieved.
Back to me getting rid of some of my junk.
Hay pot, did you just call the kettle black? You better look in the mirror!
I don't think the GS is going to be willing to give the dog away and we had found a good home out in the country where he could run free and be so much more happier than in that small cage. He is growing so fast and is not getting exercise like he needs. I have to watch this every day and it breaks my heart. He is so bored in that cage and so lonely. I guess I sound silly, but I just can't stand to see dogs in a cage or tied up. The GS doesn't take up any time with him b/c he is rarely here,nor does he take care of the dog......so that doesn't set well with me, either. We don't have the money to fence in the back yard, or I guess we would probably do it. My H has gotten so attached to the dog (of course I haven't...lol).
The dog has to go to that other home. Just do it. Don't ask anyone. Don't debate. You've been complaining that your H won't do this and your H won't do that. This is something you CAN do something about, sandi. Stop debating and yes-butting and just do it! I absolutely cannot abide animal mistreatment of any kind, and keeping a dog caged up is wrong wrong wrong. Dogs are pack animals, very social. Just DO IT! Not another word about the dog. The next time you post, I want you to report that the dog is in a new, better home!
