Quoting jen381: MPT, you said months of just doing it and your desire came back. How did you get yourself to "just do it?"
This was a process that was hard and I made mistakes that I will share too. I'm going to have to work on it before I post because it will probably be long. One caution: it wasn't until I addressed the anger I was feeling toward my husband with him that my desire really came back though. Going ahead and having sex fairly often probably improved his mood and his willingness to listen, plus I made sure I approached him in a way that wasn't threatening. So I can't say that just having sex will necessarily bring your desire back without ultimately addressing some of the other problems. But if having sex will make your spouse feel good about himself and about you, then you'll be in a better position to deal with the other stuff. I will post the list of suggestions soon.
Now, could you tell me more about how you get yourself out of bed at 5 a.m. to exercise?!
