BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR!!! I know you hurt from the sitch you are in but when a spouse has an affair there is surely a whole new range of emotions that consume you.
Yes I think flowers would be nice. Nothing too fancy so she won't yell about spending too much money but not the bouquet from the airport shop either! With a sweet note that is real so that means you can't write missed you or glad you are home but you could write glad your trip was safe. I'd suggest a hug or light kiss if the opportunity is there but be carefull to as she might be expecting that and be ready to evade!
Oh, I know that pal. And I'm not wishing for it. At this point I think that would just seal the deal, so to speak. I don't think I'd even care to fight it.
K, so I guess I should look into where I'll grab some flowers so they will still be nice. And I'll get a little card to put a note in. Wonder if she'll catch the lack of 'I missed you"? There is no question in my mind that she'll evade anything come than a quick hug and a peck. I don't think I'll even go there. It's too rejection like. Hmmmm, in her mind, she's "won", hasn't she! Poo!
I heard on the news that in Japan they were asking people not to send txts at midnight because it backlogged the system so much. W is in a remote area so that txt certainly could have been delayed. That happens often enough that a txt or voice mail is delayed. Maybe she was waiting for you to txt her first! Did I make enough excuses yet?
I like what imlin wrote for a note, including 'like you'. How long's it been since you wrote something complimentary? Has she said she doesn't like it? many people just don't know how to accept a compliment, it makes them uncomfortable. Remember! you're not expecting her to fall into your arms, you are just trying to express something to her in a nice way. Go a little further on the limb, it might hold more than you know.
Sometimes a written note can be taken differently then a spoken compliment...allows the person to contemplate the reasons without needing to make a response...as in when something is spoken...KWIM? (= Know What I Mean)
I like you guys! cye, I did not know. I've taken care of that! KWIM, I knew!
I'll have to think about the note. She doesn't like things that she thinks are 'sickly sweet', and the like you part I think qualifies! But it might work written. Hmmmmm.....
