No Code, Im so sorry. I know how you feel though, I like your idea to view W as having passed away, that might help with the detaching.
You have zero control over what she chooses to do, so let her go. Maybe one day she'll realize what she has done and try and make it right, until then let go. Move on and focus on your sons.
I know somethings gotta give for both of us, either we bring our families back together or we move on and eventually meet the women we deserve to be with. Theres so many women out there that would love to be with men like us.
SO many guys out there are adulterers/womanizers, not us No Code, we're true men with big hearts, one day we'll be rewarded.
Im here for you brother!
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07