25 y/o MLC?? HELP- I want to save my marriage!!

[One Day]

Hi dark,

Sorry that you're finding yourself in this situation. You are in a great place to get advice though.

he's 25. is it too young for MLC?

IMHO, there is a transition that occurs in the mid-late 20s. However, there is no definitive set of 'symptoms' for the transition, and certainly my H's behaviour doesn't conform to either a QLC or MLC specifically- more it takes some aspects of both.

As an example, my H on the one hand says he has missed out on life (MLC?) but other times says that 'he just wants to be settled'. Have a read of some of the posts in this forum and in newcomers and you will find threads from people whose spouses are in a 'transitional life crisis' of one sort or another. I saw that term posted by Beth83 and like it!

Everyone in our lives tell me to just let go and move on, to accept his decision and know that one day he'll regret it.

You've read DR so you know the reasons to not pay too much attention to 'everyone'. Only you can decide if you want to stand for your M or not.

he won't talk to me about our relationship. He won't even consider counseling or trying even a separation.

Then don't initiate any further OR talks, or suggest ways to improve things. At this point, he is not receptive and pushing will make him run.

The past few days, after finding this board, i've been trying some of the techniques. he hasn't warmed up much, but he seems more comfortable around me.

That is great! Have you written goals? What techniques are you trying? Posting here generates really great feedback and advice on what to try, or not try as the case may be!

I want so much to plead with him, but I haven't in 2 days. It's so hard, but I'm trying.

Well done- that is a brilliant start!! Keep posting and reading the threads and resources on this thread and the others. I am rooting for you in this and thinking of you.

OD