Cleaning out the Cobwebs

[peaceful_spirit]

Aud,
I've been here with my H. While my H was "recommitted" to the M, his actions told me otherwise. He did wahtever he wanted whenever he wanted and expected me to be okay with it. My H, too, would do his own thing and not spend an adequate amount of time with the family. In fact, last New Year's Day, he sat on the couch and did online poker while I took the tree down. Nice, huh?

This kind of happened off and onn for a while. In my case, I usually bit my tongue for a while, not wanting to be a nagging W. I told myself that I needed to let H be H and do the things taht make him happy. But there comes a point when this becomes immature. My H was a husband and a father, and there is a certain amount of responsibility that goes along with that.

Anyway, waht would happen in my case is I would get sick of suffering in silence, then I'd finally have a talk with him where i'd calmly tell him that I deserved more from a M. That the way he acts is not the way a husband and a father acts, but rather the way a single guy acts.

So, I do not thing you're beign unresonable. Your H needs to balance his own hobbies and personal pleasure with the responsibility that goes along with being a husband and father. And in my case, when i would just let it happen, H would continue to do it. When i stood up to him, he did stop and think about it.

Things are not that way anymore. My H spends almost all of his spare time with us. He still does guys things and his own thing, but since he spends more time with us, I don't have resentment over it.

So, I guess what I'm saying, is that I think it's okay for you to stand up for yourself. you dont' have to attack, but you do need to tell your H that this is not what you need out of a partner.

So, what ended up happenig last night?