H told me it is not as easy as I think it is, and kind of swayed me against it.
Heck, I have got to do something as this house has never been painted since it was built in 1995!!!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Wow, Jeannette you have a lot to accomplish this year. Can I sneak into your luggage and go to Europe with you.
Thanks for the all the well wishes and especially the prayers for my son. We can use all the prayer we can get.
New Year's past pretty uneventful...that's good right? H didn't call either of the boys and wish them a Happy New Year. Really strange because he always has in the past. I called S18 and his gf and wished them a Happy New Year. I suspect H is suffering this year without the boys. Last year at Christmas OW did her family thing and he did his and was able to spend a lot of time with them. This year seemed to be control by OW and the boys were not a big part of it. I am just speculating but since he told the boys that the current arrangement wasn't working for him and that he didn't get to spend enough time with them a couple of months ago, my guess is that this was worse for him. Sometimes I wish the boys would say, "Well come back home and you can see us all the time" But I know that would probably just make him mad as he hasn't wrapped up his relationship with OW yet.
I went to my sisters and had a couple of glasses of wine and was home before midnight. Weather was bad here and we probably have 8-10 inches of snow which means I need to try to get my snow blower working so I can blow out the driveway today. YUCK
SF, I am going to be painting most of the inside of my house, too. It isn't really easy but the end result is worth it.
God bless you all.
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Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
I did paint the inside of my house and you know what was really nice?????? I took my time, it took me over a week to do but it was well worth it! It was an accomplishment and my h was really surprised that I took it on myself!
I just found this thread from last year. I have not had a thread since January. I still read at least once a week and post replies once in a while.
I will post more later. It is funny how little has changed in the last year and how desperately H is to keep a connection between us even if it is negative.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
1. Draw nearer to God. 2. Seek financial counseling and get finances under control. So that I can tithe. 3. Eat healthier and get more exercise. 4. Socialize more. 5. As soon as the government decides what highly qualified means for special ed teachers, get signed up for a masters program. As much as I was weary of taking classes, I was never as happy as I was while accomplishing my bachelors degree. Until H dropped the bomb a year before graduation.
I must shift the focus of my life to God and off H. I have to leave it to Him and stop picking it back up again. I want to be an example to my sons on how to include God in their lives.
I found this interesting. I am still working on #1 and have been the entire year. I think this is the first time I have actually followed through with a resolution.
I am still working on #2, finances get better then worse depending on what I get hit with at any given time. I have tithed at times but not consistent as I have too much debt.
I have not succeed in #3, that has to go on this years resolutions.
I have worked hard and #4 but have backslid recently...sometimes it is just too hard. I do belong to a couple of groups at church. One is meeting for dinner with a group once a month to get to know each other better.
It is down to the wire with the school issue. I have to take a methods class for social studies and I will be highly qualified in all subjects until someone changes the rules again. I have to start my Masters program very soon as I have to have 18 credits before 2011.
Things between H and I are not really any different. I spend less time worrying about it. But I do pray for him 2-3 times a day. Mostly for his salvation and an improvement in his relationship with S's, his salvation, and of course that he would break up with OW and come back home. I don't think it consumes my life like it used to. H, now, lashes out at me in email when there is no contact for a while. He still behaves like a spoiled child so I know he is still in MLC. His job is providing a service for the auto industry, so I know that he is afraid that his job of 23 years might not always be there. For his sake, I hope it does.
Just thought this thread was very interesting after lying dormant for nearly a year.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
