W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[Lanzo]

New goal for 2008, improve the improved communications with W, also create an atmosphere where we can express our true feeling.

OK I made a start. This morning I brought W a cup of water to take with her meds, I wished her a happy New Year again. I then told her that last night when I asked for a hug, I wasn't pushing for anything more than that. I just thought that as were we entering a New Year I wanted to feel a closeness to her as we are on much more friendlier terms than we have been for a long while. I take no offence from her saying No, I won't be sulking all day, and we carry on with this friendlier relationship.

I told W that it is important that we speak of things like this rather than hold them in as this only creates the atmosphere of resentment, mistrust and misunderstanding which we've had for years. This was always my problem. All the time I was talking W was nodding in agreement and making good eye contact but she didn't say anything back.

So speaking out as I did was a big 180 for me normally I would sulk and go off in a huff. In return was W showing me empathy ? I'm not sure, but anyway I feel better after that short chat.