Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #11

[missmyfriend]

Happy New Year Imageer!

[Imageer]

Back at ya buddy.

[missmyfriend]

"Life is going to be great in 2008!"

[Punktmann]

I know I'm late, but happy new year Imageer.

Best wishes to you and your's.


May this year bring you all the best things.....

[Imageer]

Thanks Punk.

[Imageer]

I wanted tpo print out some pictures to put around the house so I have been sorting through a bunck of my photos. (I'm a sucker for punishment I guess)

I've long said that Ws MLC started in 2005. You can actually sort of see thif in the picture. Esspecially the 2006 pics. Up until that point, she is always very smiley in the pictures but then you can see a shift where she doesn't smile as much. It is also interesting that in the Christmas 2006 pictures she seems un interested and the kids are not dressed as nice compared to other years.

[missmyfriend]

Imageer, I don't think that is an unhealthy exercise to reflect. It says that there were problems with her, that she could have shared with you. She should have shared with you that she was going through issues. Issues with herself, issues with you, issues that she couldn't explain.

I have seen pics of my wife going back over the past couple of years and can see her transitioning from a happier person to a person that looked distracted. My kids were more and more neglected in the sense she wasn't there for them like she used to be. She actually distanced herself from me, the last. She started to "separate" from the kids long before she left me.

[Imageer]

I agree. I still place a lot of blame on her bad friend. During this same time, W was wanting to spend more and more time with Bad friend in her party all the time attitude.

There are so many things that all collided to put us where we are. Within a 6 month span Business went bad and we lost our house. We bought a new house after living with a friend of mine for 4 months. I later found out that W hated the house we bought. Bad Friend came on the seen and went to work on W. Another morally questionable friend of Ws returned to the area. (This fiend would have you believe that she is very religious however she cheats on her boy friends, claims that W was right to leave because "you have to go where your heart is" and "Life is too short to be unhappy" She also believes that W should not have to tell me if something is bothering her, I should be able to read her mind. Hmmmm.... Maturity issues???). On top of all of that Ws job had her working 6 nights a week. Going away for 3 days every other month, being on the road 3 days a week while expecting her to keep up with her desk work, doing 2 special projects for work and taking a course for work.

I think all of these things have contributed to where we are today. If it was just me or if she really was a lesbian then she wouln't be treating the kids like she does (None of us have heard from her since a 5 minute phone call last thursday). There is so much more going here. Besides, there are too many coincidences here.

[Grace_O]

Imageer,

I have found reflection to be really valuable too. When you look back you see things you missed or perhaphs saw and theought they would talk with you when they had it "sorted" out in their own heads. That may be different for men since women tend to talk alot more about things going through their heads. I don't know. In retrospect, I would have had a sit doen eye to eye (possibly bust your chops) kind of convo much earlier had I had any clue. I'm sure we all would have.

Well, I wanted to wish you a Happy New Year. I have faith it will be a good one.

[missmyfriend]

Imageer, your wife's "fiend" (Freudian slip perhaps?) may have been very religious but if she was talking to your W to go where her heart leads her, is talking for herself. I sincerely doubt she is talking from her spiritual side. More than likely it helps her justify either her own decisions or desires that she has to do what your W has. My W has a score of friends from the job she just left that had the same attitude. Sadly, my W barely knew them, taking their advice over everyone else she has known for years.

Regarding her being a lesbian or not, I would say she is probably a closeted heterosexual who wants to be accepted by her friend, so she is playing the part.