Hey, CMC. I just found your thread (sorry it took so long).
I liked your quote. I actually was TOO willing to forgive...I don't think it really makes a difference to the sitch or to the WAS. But it does make a difference to YOU. You may feel better yourself if you can forgive...

There is a quote: Forgiveness is a gift that you give yourself.

It may set you free.

I think I can forgive my H. I can accept where he is. And I can acknowledge that he has a GF. But, I do NOT have to accept that what he did was right, I don't have to accept her in my life.