Hi Joe...food for thought...I think you may be onto something here.
I just don't think I can take the risk any more. I need to find who I am. Hope_11's latest thread (where she summarises her sitch) has got a lot of parallels, particularly wrt finding herself and saying that she lived for her h and not for herself. I posted a reply on her thread about that.
We got together very young and I don't have a frame of reference for a healthy relationship. That's one of the reasons I don't want to go back there...too much water under the bridge, too much hurt, too much mistrust and abuse of trust and - I believe - subtle emotinal abuse...(not that he did it on purpose, but it screwed me 'round just the same),
But like you said...perhaps I have not been clear to him. _I_ think I have, but maybe he has not seen it.
