](and dear readers, give me your opinion on whether you think this is right or wrong), I feel that he is continuing to be disrespectful of my boundaries by pushing to hang around together when I have tried to make it clear that I am angry and hurt and don't want to hang around with him at this point. I want to keep to the facts, to dealing with d6 and co-parent effectively.
Is it possible that he wants to see if you're still open to repairing the marriage?
I don't want to open any wounds. I spent years in MC with a wife who wasn't interested in the marriage beyond what she could get financially by staying in it longer. If you're in a situation like that, I can understand perfectly why you would reach a point where "enough is more than enough, thank you."
I won't say you're right or wrong. It's not my place to say one or the other. If you choose to set a boundary ("Dump the OP," "Don't call me," "I'm going to file for the D," whatever) and you stick to it, then I can say I've been there and I understand the process that got me there.
I just wonder if you stated clearly that you're open to restoring the marriage if he respects the perfectly reasonable expectation of fidelity, or if you stated clearly that you're done, would he respond respectfully? There are a lot of horror stories of a WAS who wants to have it both ways and becomes vindictive when the LBS stands up for his/her self, but there is no rule that it must be that way. There are other true stories of couples who split without the cruelty.
Idle musings, and it's New Year's, so these idle musings are fueled by my second Guinness. None of this is easy, so take what you like and leave the rest.
Happy New Year!
Joe
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