I think youre rignt...more of the same. How do I put the focus on myself? I have tried best I can to GAL, be with my kids, help around the house a ton more, be very nice to her and even her friends I dont like at all. I have had zero fluctuation in her goal, which is get me out of here.
Most of your GAL stuff is focused on your W - Go out and do something for yourself. Try a new hobby, play a sport or whatever. GALing isn't supposed to do anything to her goal. It's to help you cope and manage yourself independent of your W.
Originally Posted By: tostada
I know...its hard though...when she says we arent right for each other..Its hard to answer that without disagreeing. She's so wrong.
You think she's wrong. She thinks she's right. Who cares? How has telling her that she is wrong been working for you so far?
Someone said "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy".
Originally Posted By: tostada
What she says we 'arent right for each other' in my opinion are all fixable, if she'd let them be fixable with effort. But she's not willing to put out any effort. She has made up her mind.
Like I said, every time you disagree with her a big "We're so different" sign flashes in her head.
Originally Posted By: tostada
Then...she said if I'm nice to you, you get the wrong idea. What kind of person is this? "between boyfriends"...ouch...she has really detached from me.
She's a WAW - Confused, hurting, trying to find a outlet and a way to cope. She bought a book, and she is probably reading it. It doesn't really change anything.
You really need to back off and stop fighting her every step of the way - It's just going to make it easier for her to dig a hole and throw you in it.
