she got off work and took a nap, i was vacuuming and never saw her til she got up 500. i was playing boar game w/kids. she got call form om i dnow his ring she went upstairs 5 min. then was going to bank and store. she was in entry way putting shoes on and i said know underware she smiled. I said that u know that turns me on. i said she looked beautiful. I then (dummy) asked if we are done. she: u want to talk about that as im walking out. me: ok Then she left.
I would really like to spend time with her tonight.
Making eggrolls for supper tonight i'll try to help.
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
light, I go back and forth on the pleasantness/being friends thing all the time. Part of me thinks about my anger, and how I am so anger at H. Then part of me thinks I shouldn't try to 'wash away' what little we have left to go on. Whether it be using our 'friendship' to get back together, or to just co-parent without bitterness. I just don't know.
See. Stick to the nice subjects. It's never a cheeseless tunnel to have nice conversations. Let the other one drop. She probably felt guilty after sex with you. Felt like she was cheating on him. Doesn't make sense, but it's not uncommon. So she had to push you away. Come back slowly. Keep up the happy and light banter. There is more than cheese at the end of this tunnel.
Sara, you are right. Nice conversations also show the spouse that we can be civil and not angry all the time. I know my H is visibly relieved when my spirits are up. He seems worried I will attack him (verbally...or maybe physically too...lol), and I can see him relax when I am nice.
i do think it's disrespectful of her to speak with OM under your roof. you might consider making this a boundary of yours. and are you paying for this cell phone she uses to call/text him? cancel it and make her purchase her own. search for chocolateyes threads - he 'manned up' and did this, not rudely, just from a loving firm place that would not be disrespected any longer.
and get back in your bed. she's cheating, she can move from the marital bed. JMO. easier said than done, i realize.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
I wouldnt accept her doing it in front of me(talking to om). She knows where i stand in our r. I really want her to make a choice if she is willing to commit(whole heartedly) to our m. I want her to try, at least for the kids. Not stay unhappy for them. I have considdered disconnecting the phone when she has gone over minuites.
do you have a particular thread from chocolateeyes i could read?
Sara,
no cheese tonight, at least not yet. She came home from store and her gf had called to ask her over to talk (they are having r problems also). She went to her house and to bar said she prob wouldnt be there till midnight. She did ask if she could call for a ride if she needed one, i said yes. I went to McDonalds drive through. She said we could do eggrolls tomarrow. We are going to Fargo tomarrow to spend gift cards from Christmas. Her and d12 are from mall and mine is sporting goods store. I wanted alone time, i guess this will have to do. It does seem like every time i get close someone not involved with this gets between us.
light switch
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
Its such a busy time of year for all of us, she is probably feeling that pressure as well. Being there, but not pushing her is the best thing you can be doing for her and your M. Keep it up.
