Ok sir, you asked for advice. I can only guarantee it will be worth the price (free).

Sounds like MLC. Several indicators are there:

Children leaving home in past 2 yrs (major life changeing event
with aging implications)
Fancy car
Cosmetic surgery, dental work
Age (50)
Spending (excessive)
Affair (albeit emotional) By the way, what's up with the
expensive gifts?

Your fear of MC may not be unfounded. Some initiate MC simply to prove to spouse that they should seperate/divorce. It can be like a confirmation from a third party, professional at that, "proving" that what they already are determined to do is the "right" thing to do. It also strengthens their argument. because if you continue to disagre they can cite what the counselor advised/agreed. Sort of a pre-emptive strike. Do you have any input on the choice of the counselor? Can YOU choose one that is pro-marriage, objective oriented before she chooses one that is not?

Don't feel bad about begining to protect yourself by starting a personal savings account, but try not to let her find out. If she has decided to go she will look for excuses and try to blame her leaving on you.

Continue to try to deal with this with your head rather than your heart. Ironically I also advise you to listen to your gut. As Robert Deniro's character said in the movie Ronin, "If there is a doubt, there is no doubt".

Last edited by sleeper; 01/01/08 01:40 AM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.