Hi Nikki..... Welcome to the board, you'll find alot of advice and support here..... You do have alot going for you, you are both in counseling and he said you/son come before ow. Having an affair doesn't mean he didn't/doesn't love you.....he made some bad choices and now has to earn back your trust, no matter how long it takes. I live 40 minutes north of NYC and I know several who have gone through incredible amounts of stress since 9/11. A NYPD officer I know left his wife/2 children and the wife recently began cancer treatment, he is telling her that since 9/11 he can't deal with things anymore....I believe he is using that as an excuse....has a girlfriend in the city already. Alot of people experienced stress and fear after the events that day, but it shouldn't be an excuse to leave and start fresh....it should be a time to cling to loved ones and maintain close family ties and hopefully counseling will help your husband to realize that !!
