ROOT, Always great to hear from you and get your perspective. I told H today that I'm certainly not in denial but I also don't need to talk about the D details every day. He really starts all of the D and R talks and I just participate. How do I put an end to it gracefully?
I guess H's conversations w/ow have included him telling her that he would always be a part of my life and that he is here to help me around the house, etc... H said ow is ok with that. As a woman, I might SAY that I'm ok with that in order to help seal the deal w/the man I want to be with but, PLEASE... If I start to ask H for help after he is living with her, it is NOT going to be ok. Do you ladies agree???
H just left to spend NYE w/ow. I am going to throw up as this is the first time that I've "known" about it. I just told him goodbye when he left... He sucks...
Just wanted to come by and say I know how you feel tonight. I really do. Last Saturday night was the very first night I knew H was with OW. In fact, they were exchanging their Christmas gifts. The whole night I was in shock thinking "My husband's on a date.." and stuff like that. Almost an out of body experience for me. It wasn't easy, but we can do this.
Stay on here tonight, or visit every now and then, and know that you aren't alone in your pain.
Oh I understand. Even though its lonely to be alone, sometimes I just can't face friends even. The one that knows wants to talk about it, and its hard to be fake around the ones that don't know. I can't win.......
I did learn that H is planning to move ow closer to where we now live so that ow's kids can change schools this fall. Obviously, that means ow has full custody of her kids. Too bad for ow's xh. Plus, ow will be in her new career by then and we can all live close together and happily-ever-after.
