I wish I hadn't posted that article because I don't really agree at all with the perspective of the writer although I do agree with some of what she says. The fact of the matter is that due to our lame racist society, a black man has to be a MAN or he isn't anything. He has no choice in much the same way a soldier in the trenches has no choice. While I was dating GP, he caught his S12 in a minor theft and he sent him away to a boot camp for two weeks. He didn't have the luxury of being liberal or lax because his son could so easily end up dead or in prison.
Have you ever watched an awards show and some guy goes up to collect his trophy and he says something like "I'd like to thank my beautiful wife for all her support." and it seems like he really means it and the camera shows the wife and maybe she isn't really beautiful in some objective sense but subjectively she seems beautiful right then? I can't really explain it well but part of the attraction between black men and white women is that there is a natural tendency towards a sort of conspiracy of admiration or validation or support. A strong desire to "look good" and "do well" together because so many would love to see you fail.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
